Tuesday November 26, 2013–A Message in Process–Hopes,Dreams, How God Sees Us and Maybe We Can See Others

My oldest daughter with her beautiful family.

My oldest daughter with her beautiful family.

For daily tasks and a cleaning checklist for your Dining Room, Entry and Front Porch, I refer you to Monday’s post.

What are your hopes and dreams? Where do you want to go? Are your dreams and hopes in line with God’s will for your life?

If you aim nowhere, that’s where you will get. Nowhere! Think about your relationships and what you are willing to invest in them. That’s part of what relationships are—an investment. You invest your time, your heart, and your soul. You invest love, patience, creativity, and risk it all not having a handy dandy schedule of return. This investment is indeed a sacrifice. Make it something you give to the Lord because He does give the best return, even when all seems lost.

Only I am Roy’s wife. How can I bless him?

Only I am Summer, Amy, and Roger’s mom. How can I bless them?

I share my other daughter with a stepmom that she dearly loves. Is it challenging and painful for me?  Yes. Do I, will I bless her as I can? Yes

I have beaucoups of grandchildren. How can I best bless them?

Before all else, I can pray. God has chosen to work in this world in response to the prayers of His people. I will invite Him into every situation that involves those I love.

I can do my best to communicate with them. For those who live far away, I will use social media and every other invention to be aware of what is happening in their lives and to respond where I can.

I will try to govern my speech and do my best to be a woman they can respect, love, and maybe even admire.

I have set my heart to serve. Today I saw a comment on a thread about serving. A woman made it clear she would not serve anyone. In God’s Word, I see Jesus serving others continually and He is God and the Son of God.  If He can wash the feet of even an enemy, why shouldn’t I?

I have set my heart to know and love God. I will intentionally demonstrate my love for God by loving and caring for the people He has given me to love. I will spend time in His Word daily and intentionally seek to gain a deeper knowledge of Him, of who I am in God’s eyes, and what He is calling me to be and do.

imageIn the recount of Gideon in Judges 6—the Angel of the Lord (a pre-incarnate appearance of Jesus—God with skin on) appears to Gideon and said  “The Lord is with you, mighty warrior.”

Now at the time Gideon was hiding in a winepress threshing wheat. BUT GOD saw Gideon as what He intended Gideon to be—a valiant man—a warrior. How is our vision of ourselves different than how we are seen by God? How is our vision of our lives different from how God tells us to live? If we leave our Bible in the car or on the shelf instead of dining on it regularly, we will believe our defeated feelings and the lies we hear daily from the internet, television, other people and other sources.

I want to choose to believe what God says about me. Jeremiah 17:6 tells us: “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? New Living Translation If I follow my heart and listen to my own counsel, I will be deceived and make wrong choices. Isaiah 53:6 tells us: All of us, like sheep, have strayed away. We have left God’s paths to follow our own. Yet the LORD laid on him the sins of us all.

The sin that was laid upon Jesus was me doing my own thing. So, I want to do His thing. I can’t live it if I don’t know it. I will not know it if I ignore it.

Taking this a step further, maybe instead of seeing the people around me as the messes they are (just like me) I need to see them as God sees them. I need to look at them with eternal eyes and remember God loves them and has regard for them. If I treat them as the people God sees them to be not just for one interaction or one day, maybe their eyes will be lifted higher, too.

All of our eyes are infected with poor vision. We need to put on our Jesus colored glasses and see ourselves and others as God sees us.

This seems to be a message in progress as the Lord is working in me just now. Never think I am pointing a finger at you.  I had a pastor long ago who said that every time He was pointing a finger at us, he was pointing three back at himself.

Incidentally, how can I best love my grandchildren besides being faithful to pray for them? One at a time—the same way I am able to do other things. Focus on what is before you and as the opportunity comes, respond with all the love and grace God gives. I have lost time grieving over the opportunity I don’t have instead of enjoying the one in front of me. No more! Focus on what is before us and give it all we have.

Love and hugs,


An Update on Our Lives

Before I update you all on what has been happening for the last several months I want to say that God is good all the

My very tired sweetie, How could I be irritated with him? Hmm! We have our moments ;-)

My Roy before all our excitement. I am so glad he’s rested up.

time. What He teaches us and does in our lives in the hard times is good and draws us so much closer to Him. We live in a fallen world and will experience illness, death,and challenges each day. How will we respond to those challenges?
In March we traveled to Utah to spend Resurrection Day with our daughter and her family and then take care of her boys while Summer and her husband took a work related trip for 5 days. Wonderful time. Shortly after returning my father entered hospice care for the final stages of Parkinson’s. Shortly after I got a call from my terrific step-mom telling us that if we wanted to visit my dad we should do so soon. We dropped everything and went to Michigan where I was able to have a lovely visit with my dad.
Roy had been having extreme pain in his left calf so we began to pursue treatment. On June 24th he had a 6 hour surgery to replace/reroute veins in his leg. The surgery did not work. He had a second 6 hour surgery the next day. Two days later he had a heart attack (where better to have a heart attack than in the cardiac wing of a hospital?) Two days after that he had a heart catheterization that found 3 blockages on the left side of his heart. He was in the hospital from June 24th to July 8th. We opted for home health care and friends from Alabama came to help for several days.

My dad, John L. Minelli November6, 1928-July 17, 2015

My dad, John L. Minelli
November 6, 1928-July 17, 2015

On the 17th if July while our friends were with us I got the call that my dad had died. No words can express the joy I have that my dad was God’s friend and I know I will see him again. No words can express the loss of someone so loved and not being with my family to share the grief and the joy.

The evening of the day our friends left, Roy’s incision started spurting blood. He was taken to the emergency room. He was released at about 2:40 am. The next day while Roy was getting ready to go to the doctor’s office for a follow up he began to hemorrhage. We called 911. My son and I were able to slow the blood loss (Roy lost around a liter of blood) and the EMT’s arrived, got the bleeding under control and transported him back to the hospital where he was readmitted to ICU. Roy remained in ICU and the step down unit until the 29th of July.
I spent almost every moment with Roy day and night during both hospital stays. I loved, loved, loved the nurses and the techs. I hate, hate, hated the food. I gained 15 pounds eating junk at the hospital. Roy lost 15 pounds because he disliked the food so much. I slept in a chair more than a bed in July and the end of June. I missed my father’s funeral. There were a few other small in comparison events. Our television was hit by lightening while Roy was in the hospital. An unscrupulous contractor has threatened to sue us if we don’t use his company to reroof our home or give him the insurance proceeds if we use someone else. My grandson spilled water on the MacBook that he had borrowed from me and fried it.
I had had plans to take my grandson Kobe to Utah to visit Summer and her family and give our grandkids a break from daycare and school for a year. I had the plane tickets for months before all these interesting life events started. We decided for me to take the trip and our wonderful daughter Amy took over her dad’s care with the help of home healthcare.
All these events were incredibly challenging but taught me so much. I want to thank all our friends and even friends we didn’t know yet who have helped us in so many ways. I will get those thank you notes out after Roy is a little better and my home is restored to something resembling order. Every card, call, meal, visit, gift and incredible works of service were deeply appreciated. I cannot thank you enought and I thank God for your encouragement.
Please keep us in your prayers. Roy is still recovering.
Love and hugs,

Fervent: A Woman’s Battle Plan for Serious, Specific and Strategic Prayer by Priscilla Shirer

War Room, another promising movie by the Kendrick Brothers is coming out August 28th. Priscilla Shirer has written this book in response to the message of this movie. This book is now a part of my daily quiet time.

The link to the book on Amazon is:


Zones for Your Children’s Room(s)

IMG_0001Encourage your children to create zones in their bedroom. While they maintain their entire bedroom, they can focus on one area a week.

Zones for Your Children’s Room(s)

Week One—Bed and Beside Table

  • What’s under the bed? Unless it’s in a container, that’s not a storage area you want to use. The area is harder to clean and the items stored outside a container will get dirty and dusty

Week Two—Dresser

  • All drawers in order.
  • Each drawer or area of the drawer should have the same type of item, folded in the same way
  • Socks matched. When your socks are not matched it takes time to find two that at least come close to matching.

Week Three—Closet

  • Group items by type. Everything in your closet should be clean, in good repair and fit.
  • Shoes should be in pairs, shoe racks, bags or cubbies are useful to keep them that way.
  • Closet floor and shelf should be in order. Get out a step ladder and encourage them to check all the way to the back of the shelf. Stuff can get lost back there.

Week Four—Desk and Bookshelf (or Toy Box for younger children)

  • Older children should have the supplies they need for study and homework
  • Younger children can learn to take care of their toys and to keep play sets together.

Week Five—The Floor

  • What’s on the floor that needs to be put away?

Remember to inspect, don’t expect.

Use it or lose it

My Paraphrase of “Divine Reasonings of Faith” by Oswald Chambers

Take principles you learn from the Bible and apply them in your life.

Take principles you learn from the Bible and apply them in your life.

But first be concerned about God’s kingdom and (H)is righteousness, and all of these things will be provided for you as well.  Matthew 6:33 (International Standard Version)

When we look at these words of Jesus, we find them the most revolutionary statement human ears have ever heard.

“But first be concerned about God’s kingdom” 

Even the most spiritually minded of us argue in exactly the opposite direction. “But I must live; I must eat; I must make a living; I must have clothes.”

For us, the great concern of our lives is not the rule of God in our lives but how we are to live.

Jesus reverses the order:

  • First, get rightly related to God.
  • Make your relationship with God the greatest concern of your life.
  • Do not be concerned with the other things.

“That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life–whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear.” Matthew 6:25 New Living Translation

Our Lord points out from His perspective how unreasonable it is being so anxious over the stuff of life.  Jesus is not saying that the person who doesn’t worry about anything is blessed—that man is foolish. Jesus taught that a disciple has to make his relationship with God the most dominant concern of his life and to be “carefully careless” about everything else in comparison with that.

Jesus is saying –“Don’t make what you will eat and what you will drink the ruling factor of life but be totally concentrated on God.”

Some people are careless about what they eat and drink and they suffer for it.

Some people are careless about what they wear and they look awful.

Some people are careless about the way they conduct their lives and God holds them responsible.

Jesus is saying that the most important thing in life is to put God first, and everything else second.

It is one of the greatest challenges of life as a believer to allow the Holy Spirit to bring us into line with the teachings of Jesus in these verses.

Forty Years and Counting!

Forty years ago on Saturday May 3, 1975 Roy and one of our closest friends, Wayne Cannon, went off to play golf while Wayne’s wife Cindy (my BFF), their little girl Stacy, and I hung out and got ready for a military gala that evening at the Officer’s Club. In between, we all had an appointment at 5 pm at the Old Forge Chapel at Picatinny Arsenal, New Jersey. There was a wedding to attend.It was Roy’s and mine.
We are such different people now but some things has grown—our love and commitment to each other. Apart from God these two selfish, self-indulgent people had no chance of a successful marriage, but God was at work.
The Lord gently led us through hardship, and near loss, past giving up or giving in.
On October 1, 1979, we were parents of two little girls, I was ready to give up on a second marriage. I was thoroughly sick of myself and none too pleased with Roy. I stood by the sink in my kitchen, and I said, “I don’t even know if you are real, God, but if you are, you’ve got me. Change me, Lord.”
And He did.
Bells and whistles did not go off but something was different.Through learning to love God, I learned to love Roy and my children in a completely new and different way.
I have been in the learning process of how to be a good wife and mom—failing more often than I have succeeded but the Lord did not give up and neither did I. I am neither perfect nor complete. I will not be until I see Jesus face to face but I am a better person, wife, mom, and grandma because of Him.
Today I celebrate my love for a very good husband who says I take good care of Him but even more I celebrate the grace of God that transformed each of us and our marriage. All the good I have I owe to God alone. Anything good I am I owe to God alone.
Thank you, Roy for the best 40 years of my life. Most of all, thank you, Lord God