Each Monday put your home back in order after the weekend, clean your toilets, and check the bathrooms for any needed supplies—personal, paper, and cleaning.
Let’s talk about priorities. Priorities are those things that are most important to you. If you are living life apart from your priorities you will be constantly disappointed with the results. Your life will be managing you. You will not be managing your life.
For me my priorities are:
- Children, grandchildren, parents and family
- Everything else
If it appears I am not on the list, I am. In every one of these relationships, I am nurtured.
The other telling thing is my priorities are all relationships. My priorities are not stuff. Stuff only supports my life. Stuff is not my life.
In support of priorities we set goals. If you aim at nothing you will hit it every time. Aim higher. Aim to grow in relationship with God, your husband, your children, and grandchildren, family and friends.
Goals are specific. For instance, a specific goal will state what, how, when. It’s not “I want to develop a Quiet Time.” It is “I want to spend the first 15 minutes of my day focused on God by reading the Bible and praying. I will have this quiet time at 6:30 in my favorite chair in the Living Room. I will keep a Bible, pen, and notebook in a basket near my chair. I will begin with the gospel of John and read a chapter a day. I will write down one observation, question or thought in my notebook. I will keep a prayer list in my notebook that notes both requests and answers to prayer. I commit to doing this at least 5 days a week. This is something I plan to do for the rest of my life.”
Not “I want to lose 10 pounds.” But “I want to lose 10 pounds in the next two months (January 8th) by losing a pound a week. I will write down all that enters my mouth down to a mint, piece of candy or a stick of gum. I will drink a glass of water 15 minutes before dinner or whenever I feel hungry. I will not eat after 7 p.m. I will focus on eating fresh fruits and vegetables and lean meats. I will allow myself a cheat day once a week but I will still write down everything I eat on that cheat day. I will weigh myself weekly on Monday morning at 6 a.m.”
Your goals will support your priorities and may include relationship goals, like a Quiet Time as part of supporting my relationship with God. What are your goals in supporting your relationship with God and the others who are important in your life?
My goals may also be
- Physical: reach and maintain a healthy weight, be physically active, care for my teeth.
- Intellectual: keep up on current events, read three nonfiction books a year, learn a language.
- Financial: give 10%, save 10%, live debt free on the other 80%
- Recreational: Have a fun day with family once a week, take a family vacation (crossover with financial goal—pre-save for family vacation by setting aside $? a week.)
- Creative—learn to paint, arrange flowers, make cards
- Home: Do a whole house declutter, update bathroom, have my home clean before I leave for the day or by 10 am, teach my children to care for their room and possessions and help with home care. (cross over with relationship goals for children)
It is sad to give up what you want most, for what you want at the moment.
Consider your priorities. Write them down.
Consider your life. Does it reflect your priorities?
What goals do you want to put in place in connection with each of your priorities?
(As a stay at home mom most of my life, one of my goals was to meet my husband at the door when he came home each day, and greet him warmly and cheerfully (big hug and kiss)—no matter how my day had gone. If I had something challenging to discuss with him, I tried to save it until after he had time to decompress.)
Write down each goal and put it in a plastic sleeve in the front of your notebook. Review frequently – no less than once a week during your planning time. No planning time on your calendar? If we fail to plan, we plan to fail.
Love and Hugs,
This was my list of priorities in the 1980’s when my children were young:
Priority 1: God
Purpose: To bring honor and glory to God
To know God
- Time apart for
- Pray without ceasing. Use prayer journal
- Study the Bible
- Memorize Scripture
- Read the Bible Each year
- Devotional Reading
- Church Service
- Bible Study and Services Sunday am
Priority 2: Roy
Purpose: To be a helper suitable for him
- Meet Roy at the door
- Afternoon nap with Roger so I won’t be so tired in the evening
- Ask him—communication
- Plan time out alone together
- Look my best when I’m with him
- Plan menus he likes
Priority 3: The Children
Purpose: To bring them up in the love and admonition of the Lord
Train to be self-controlled under Lordship of Christ
- Cut back on TV viewing—plan TV viewing
- Roy and I—more time in activities with children
- Family projects
- Take more pictures
- Memory box for each child
- Talk and listen
- Nightly baths
- Family devotions
- Meals at table
Priority 4: Home
Purpose: To have a pleasant and functional atmosphere for my family’s home
- Plan my work. Work my plan
- Make use of tools—to do list, calendar, planner
- Make use of references
- Work before other activities
- Be a good steward of all resources including finances
Purpose: To be healthy, attractive and have energy to accomplish goals
- High energy low junk diet
- Keep clothes in order
- Eliminate clutter
- Good personal care
- Live in the presence of God
Keep in touch regularly with family—Eve, Grandma, parents