Notes on Honor Series # 3–Honor Marriage
Randy Hahn–The Heights Baptist Church
January 25, 2015
Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. New American Standard Bible
- God says, “You honor me and I will honor you.”
- Honor what God tells us to honor.
When in Rome—idea is that there is a time and place to do away with restraint.
Two ideas in the Roman Empire—Asceticism and Libertinism.
Asceticism—concept marriage is in the way of spirituality
Today it is not a matter of spirituality but considers marriage in the way of personal development and goals
There is no command in the Bible to marry or marry by a certain age.
Huffington Post –
5 Reasons to Marry Young.
- More sex
- Less drinking
- More money
- No data to support marrying older.
Living together has increased 138% with 14% since 2009. Those who live together before marriage have a higher rate of divorce, higher rate of abuse. Those who do not marry have a higher rate of breaking up.
Is marriage a sinking ship?
It’s not sinking and it’s our job to get the news out.
That old quote that half of all marriages end in divorce is untrue. It was a projection from around 1980. Divorce peaked in 1980. The overwhelming majority of married couples say they are happy. 72% are married to their first mate.
Our job is to carry the hign value of marriage to society.
Libertine—Pursuit of sex and evolving sexuality
Not morally worse today but unashamed.
We cannot get the world to our point of view.
Society is shaping our view.
Molded and shaped by the Word or the world.
Honor marriage in our sexuality.
Bringing our best—what’s pure and best.
When some would go to select a lamb for sacrifice they would choose the defective –to save on the cost. God doesn’t need the sheep. God wants the heart that seeks to give the best.
The marriage bed=an altar. A set apart place shared with only one.
The sexually immoral and adulterers will be judged. Pornea—in mind and in action.
1 Corinthians 6:9-11
9Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God?
Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. 11Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.
fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers,
**if this is the life I want I will not inherit God’s kingdom.
Ephesians 5:3, 5-6
But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints;
5For this you know with certainty, that no immoral or impure person or covetous man, who is an idolater, has an inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.
6Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
3For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God;
We are not like everyone else. I value what God says.
We stand in gentleness, love, and respect toward others.
Not old fashioned or out of date.
Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever. Hebrews 13:8
How do we honor marriage?
- We don’t tell marriage jokes.
2. We don’t speak negatively of our marriage or mate.
3. Purposely speak highly of marriage and your mate everywhere you can.
4. Purpose to show your children the value of marriage, what you appreciate about it and how you protect it.
5. Purpose that your mate knows how much you value them.
6. Guard against anything that devalues marriage: jokes, pornography, TV, any temptations.
7. Teenagers, singles – Date in way that honors and keeps pure the marriage they will one day be in.