Tuesday November the Fourth: Loving God Most

Today is Tuesday the fourth of November 2014.

imageTuesday is Duster Dance Day. Many people don’t like to dust but it has to be done if you want to be able to breathe in your home, so let’s make it fun. Put on some music, make sure you have a duster that works, and go to it.
Our Area of Focus this week is the Living Room. In your time in the Living Room today do an extra special job of dusting. Dust the blinds, the ceiling fan, and the shelves and nooks and crannies of your furniture. Move what needs to be moved and dust under it. Set the timer and race it. Give it 15 minutes. I like to wipe surfaces with a damp cloth and then polish them with a clean, dry cloth. That way there is no build- up of furniture polish. When my wood needs feeding I use lemon oil. I spread it on allow it to sit and then go back and wipe off the excess.

Today I am taking my car in for service. There are a couple of small issues. Is your car maintenance up to date? Do you have the month each of your cars need to be inspected on your calendar? Is the date your license plates on each of your cars expire on your calendar? Take care of your car and your car will take care of you and you will have better resale value.
I got hardcore in this purge got rid of years of magazines that I had stored, neatly by type, and date. I realized that I would never do anything with any of those issues. I misread my recycling calendar and did not put them out for pickup yesterday. I was talking on the phone with a close friend and mentioned that I had missed the recycling truck. She told me her grandson’s preschool would love to have the magazines. I took 6 grocery bags over to her house for her to drop off. I could see God’s handprints all over this. The preschool got magazines, my friend and I shared tea, prayer, and conversation. God gets the glory as we shared/share our faith.

Pretty Poison
IMG_0194The enemy has a pretty poison for each of us. That pretty poison has been carefully selected by the enemy to lead us away from God. The enemy uses that pretty poison to lie to us about who we are, what we must have, and how we should live. The antidote to that pretty poison is loving God. If we simply try to resist the pretty poison in our own strength it grows larger and stronger as we focus on it. Loving God means instead of focusing on that pretty poison we focus on Him.

For example, it may be:

I love to be in the know and share what I know with other people (gossip) but I love God more so the words of my mouth will be words that glorify Him. (Gossip is sharing anything in which both you and the people you are sharing with are not a part of the problem or a part of the solution and don’t delude yourself about what the solution is)

I love food but I love God more. My body is God’s temple—His dwelling place so I will care for it and not indulge in eating and drinking the foods that will destroy my ability to serve God well. I will seek comfort in God and not in food and drink.

I am attracted to another person in an inappropriate way. The gift of our sexuality has been given to us as an intimate celebration within marriage—a covenant celebration. The enemy tempts us to misuse this lovely gift of God by pursuing it outside of marriage. Marriage is a picture of God’s love—for Christ and His Bride the Church. The enemy has worked long and hard to destroy this picture by drawing us to indulge in sexual relationships before and outside of marriage. So it may be I am attracted to another person whether a person of the opposite gender or a person of the same gender but I love God more and I will seek His best and not a momentary thrill.

IMG_0422It could be in my marriage and family that my dreams are not being fulfilled and I feel unloved and unappreciated and wasted in a season of my life. I want to give up but I love God more so I persevere and I love my husband and children as onto the Lord. I love others intentionally because I love God more.

It could be that I am discouraged and think my life is not worth living so I want to take it but my life belongs to God and I love God more so I live for Him.

There are so many other situations and circumstances where we have to choose to love God most intentionally. It is not that some things do not bring pleasure for a season or that we could only love one person. There are any number of ways we can betrayed or be betrayed by even a person we consider our soulmate. Don’t buy the lies. God knows what will damage and destroy us and He tells us not to go there. Love God most.

The greater love forces out the lesser. BUT love is not just a feeling, an overwhelming force that we are not able to stop or resist. Love is sacrifice. Love is a choice of the will. Love puts the needs of others ahead of our own needs. Yes we do need to take care of ourselves in order to care for others but too often we indulge ourselves to the neglect of others.

Here goes the same old story I have shared with you more than a couple of times. When my grandson Brayden was much smaller than he is now, he asked me, “Grandma who do you love most?” In that moment of time God moved in me and my answer was God breathed. “I love God most, Brayden.”
“Why do you love God most, Grandma?”
“Because when I love God most, I can love you better.”

Choose to love God most. Focus on God and not on the strongholds in your life. Walk by faith and not by sight and He will help you be more than a conqueror.

Love and Hugs,

Tomorrow is Desk Day—Get ready to get up to date.


October 10, 2013, How Do I Store My Staples? and Titus 2—A Review of Parent/Child Relationships

imageRemember to refer to Monday each week for the Area of Focus (Kitchen) and today’s tasks (Floor Day)

Other than an office supply a staple is a basic food supply you keep in your kitchen. Staples include flour, sugar, oil, coffee, rice, pasta and other commonly (at least once upon a time) used supplies. How do I store these items for best flavor?

The storage place for any of these items should not be over a stove or under-cabinet lighting. The heat will cause faster deterioration


How and Where to Store

How Long?


Bread Crumbs (dry) In a cool dry place or refrigerator Cool dry place: 3-6 mos.Fridge: 2 years For fresher flavor, refrigerate after opening
Coffee Airtight container in a cool dark place 1-2 weeks Whole beans can be frozen for a month. Do not refreeze

Whole wheat

Air tight container in a cool dark placeCool dry place



10 to 15 monthsCool dry place: 2-3 mos.

Fridge: 1-2 mos.

Freezer: 6 months

When weather is hot keep flour in the freezerOil in bran becomes rancid (spoils) at room temperature
Honey Cool, dark place Indefinitely If the honey has become crystallized, place open jar (not plastic container) in a pan of simmering water . Stir honey until crystals dissolve. If honey is stored in a plastic container, place container in a bowl of very hot water
Maple Syrup Refrigerator /freezer Fridge: 1 yearFreezer: indefinitely Buy in glass containers only. Maple syrup will mold, glass containers help prevent mold.
Oil (Vegetable) Cool dark place or fridge Cool dark place: 3 mosFridge: 6 mos. Don’t leave refrigerated oil out. Oil does not like frequent temperature changes.
Pasta Air tight container  in a cool dry place 1 year After opening, move to an airtight container


Airtight container in a cool dry place/fridge/ freezer IndefintelyCool dry place/fridge:

Up to 6 mos.

Freezer: 1 year

Oil in bran becomes rancid at room temperature


Airtight container in a cool dry placeAirtight container in a dry place of plastic bag. If you store it in a plastic bag, squeeze all the air out to help it stay moist and keep from hardening. Indefinitely4-6 months Brown sugar hardens when it dries out.  Put a slice of bread in with the sugar. The moisture from the bread will keep your sugar soft. Because the bread will eventually harden, replace it every three to four days. The bread will not mold.

 Titus 2 — How does submission apply to the parent /child relationship? (From Ephesians 5)

IMG_0001In my last post, I wrote about how we walk out the attitude of Christ in our lives and in our marriages based on Ephesians 5.  Today we look at the parent-child relationship.

The motivation continues to be our relationship with the Lord. We do not just treat others well because we love them or they deserve it but because we belong to the Lord.

Ephesians 6:1-4

  • Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. (v.1)
  • “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: (v. 2)
    • If you honor your father and mother,
      • “things will go well for you,
      • and you will have a long life on the earth.”(v. 3)

A child obeys their parents because the child belongs to the Lord. Not because the parent deserves it. No one is required to obey any direction apart from the Lord—to do wrong. There is never a right to do wrong. In refusing to do what is ungodly, each person in each relationship must remain civil and respectful. This is a challenge in many relationships and situations but God’s Holy Spirit will help you learn how to respond and you will become wise in the process.

Now for us as adults, fathers and mothers, we come to a much ignored instruction. We need to model respectful behavior before our children and to our children.

  • Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them.
  • Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.

While a parent is not submitted to the child, the parent is to be submitted to the Lord in the way they teach, instruct, and discipline their child. Discipline is not punishment. Discipline is training. We not only teach our children what not to do but also what to do and how to do it. Telling a child to go clean their room without teaching them how leads to a frustrated child and a needlessly frustrated parent. Teach your children, not once but over a period of time, giving them increased responsibility. Demonstrate and demonstrate and demonstrate until your child can do any task well. Praise the good and correct what is less than good. Zig Ziglar said, “Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly until you can do it well.” Make learning, interesting, pleasant, and even fun.

Many of us were not taught by our parents. If this is true of you, and you were not taught or you were not taught well, ask the Lord to help you to learn and to teach your child godly living. My mom was not taught by her mom, so my mom did not teach me. I had to make a point of learning as an adult. I am still learning. If I can learn, you can learn.



Homeschooling–Our Family Handbook from 1989 to 1995

In the 1980’s and 90’s, we homeschooled our children.  After we had been schooling at home for a while I realized that we needed some clear guidelines. This is what we used. A chore chart is at the end.

Paitsel Family Handbook

For a family to function smoothly and happily, there need to be guidelines and rules.   These rules are to each of us know what to do in any situation without constant reminders.

  1. The first family rule is love. Whatever we say, think, or do should be done in love.
  2. Our most important relationship is with God.  Every other relationship is governed by our relationship with God.
  3. To know God we must give His Word priority in our lives. Each day we need to read the Bible and pray.
  4. The first things we do in the morning:
    1. Get up and say “Good Morning!” to the Lord.
    2. Get dressed appropriately.
    3. Make my bed and clean my room.
    4. Eat a good breakfast.
    5. Do my morning chores.
  1. Our work, whether school work, housework, or any other type of work should be done well and the very best we can do.
  2. Our work is not done if Mom is still working.  When we complete our work, we ask Mom what we can do to help.
  3. We need to concentrate on our schoolwork during school hours. (9-3)
  4. No TV until school work and housework are done.
  5. We cannot have guests when our rooms are not in order or when our work (school or household) is not done.
  6.  We dress neatly and modestly.
    1. We take good care of our clothing and all our possessions
    2. In church we wear the best we can to honor God.
    3. Our clothing goes into the laundry as soon as we take it off, if it is dirty.  If it is clean we need to hang it in the closet.
    4. We are responsible for our own ironing and hand laundry.
    5. Our hair is kept clean and well groomed.  We take good care of our teeth and nails.
  7. Television, movies, or music we chose to watch or listen to should not have values offensive to our Lord including language that is crude.
  8. Toys and other possessions should not be left in the yard or the car.
  9. Our allowance is to last for two weeks. We are to give 10% of our allowance to church.
  10. We tell the truth in love.
  11. We are not critical of family members or friends.
  12. We do not speak of anyone unless we have something good to say.
  13. The Paitsel young adults are responsible for cleaning the kitchen after dinner.
  14. We are each responsible to clean up after ourselves in the kitchen and bathroom,  we need to take our personal items with us to our rooms when we go to bed at night.
  15. Our pets are to be well cared for and have food, water, and a clean place to live.
  16. The Rules of the House, Rules for Young Friends and Uncommon Courtesy are always in effect.
  17. We answer the telephone politely. If someone calls while we are on the phone we answer quickly after excusing ourselves to our friends.  Adults have telephone priority.
  18. Never make a long distance call without permission.
  19. Never borrow another family member’s possessions without their permission.  Return the items in good condition as soon as you are finished with them.
  20. Bedtime for Summer is 10:00 PM, Amy is 9:30 PM, Roger is 9:00. You are to be in bed asleep at that time unless you have permission to stay up later.

Family Work Schedule

Summer Amy Roger
Monday Dust

Laundry Helper



Take out the trash

Kitchen Helper

Tuesday Take out the trash

Set table

Check drawers

Cook helper

Change Sheets

Check drawers

Feed animals

Laundry helper

Check drawers

Wednesday Kitchen helper

Take out trash

Change Sheets


Laundry helper


Spot clean carpet

Thursday Wipe down door frames/black marks on wall

Check closet

Kitchen helper

Take out trash

Check closets

Change sheets

Feed animals

Check closets

Friday Floors


Kitchen Helper

Take our trash


Laundry helper

Feed animals

Saturday Help mom Help mom Help Mom
Sunday Family Family Family